Decorative Flower
Her Realm, Personal website and blog of Cole
Jan 19

Merry Giftmas to Me

Christmas 2016 was interesting, not in that I did anything other than usual. Rather, I decided to be proactive and help people who wished to buy me things do so in a way that would be satisfactory for us both. They wouldn’t see the disappointment in my face when they took a stab in the dark.

The result was an Amazon wishlist from which almost everyone shopped (those who didn’t lucked out, fortunately). Perhaps because I made it easier, more people than normal purchased me presents. And I found myself excitedly trying to guess what people had purchased from my list, no less surprised and excited by the results.

My Christ loot included:

Christmas Loot

nerdy things and games and books, oh my! (For Christmas)

  • Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy BBC Radio Play on CD
  • Punderdome
  • King of Tokyo
  • DC Bombshells Coffee Table Book
  • DC Bombshells plying cards
  • Epic Mickey 2
  • $50 to GameStop, which I used for Paper Mario, Yoshi’s New Island and Professor Layton
  • The Nightmare Before Christmas Clue

I’ll be entertained for quite some time thanks to all these gifts, not to mention games and comics that I recently purchased myself!

I’ve started two of the video games, finished the DC Bombshells coffee table book and fell in love with the H2G2 radio play. I’m on the third phase (season) thanks to my library’s ebook system. Bonus: I’m marking it off as a book for my GoodReads challenge!

So, yay, me!

Jan 03

Ode to 12016

It’s time to say goodbye to 2016
The year that everyone thinks is so mean

2016, you took those close to our hearts
And constantly strive to make our lives hard

I listen to my loved ones as they commiserate
I confess I cannot entirely relate

I took trips out of town so I can see zoos
And saw concerts and museums, too.

You let me see a band after a band play upon the stage
And introduce me to your friends whose laughter filled my days

You gave me strength to do things that scared me
And I survived even if they didn’t turn out pretty

When I thought I was lost and unsure of myself
2016, you stepped in to lend your help

You reminded me just how much I love to read
And just how significant learning is to me

Will all kinds time for comics, games, and other little things,
2016 did much happiness bring

My anxiety I was finally able to mitigate
Confidence I no longer had to imitate

No year has been any better to me
Yet I can’t help but feel a bit guilty

Perhaps the difficulties that others were sent
Enable me to be a much better friend

Regardless the reason, I must say goodbye
And eagerly wait for 2017 to arrive

Dec 12

The Two Things I Cannot Live Without Right Now

AKA Cole is a hypocrite

But y’all love me, so it’s okay.

Right now I am a bit obsesses with two things: garlic and jeggings. Not together of course. You freaks.

Anyway, let’s talk about garlic. My love for garlic is far from in its infancy, but it’s also inconsistent. I’ll eat a lot of pasta, potatoes or chicken with garlic. Then, I’ll forget about it for a while.

Right now is not one of those times. My apartment smells great, and I can even smell the garlic outside the door. Pretty impressive considering I’ve got myself a cold. Blech.

Jeggings are something I’ve come to appreciate more recently. In fact, I decried them on Facebook a little over a year ago.. or so my Facebook memories tell me.

The problem is that I am short and curvy and have always have issues finding well-fitting jeans. I’ve also always been told that pantlegs should be wide to balance out hips/midsection. You know exactly what I mean if you’re anything other than thin. And I guess it was hard to ditch that mindset.

I had also long associated skinnier pants and jeans with certain subcultures, and I wasn’t very fond of the aesthetic.

Finally, I think feet look huge when you wear skinny pants or jeggings. And they do. It still gets me to look down and see my entire shoe. It’s weird. Okay, guys? But I’m weird. So whatever.

The whole thing started two years ago. I gave into leggings, especially fleecy ones. They’re comfortable as fuck, and while i prefer those that are lined, dark and without patterns, it struck me that skinny jeans or jeggings aren’t really that much different. So i’d probably like them, too, yea?

The hunt was not fortuitous, however. Finding jeans for short inseams is hard y’all. Remember when I wrote about it on Reviews by Cole? And jeans come in all sorts of washes and cuts, but jeggings seem to be more limited. It’s also harder to get away with slightly-too-long jeggings because they wrinkle up, which is really unflattering. If your skinny jeans don’t fit like a second skin, they look terrible. Sorry.

I lucked out a few months ago when Rue 21 had a sale, and I found skinny jeans for curvy bodies. They were cheap. They fit well. They look cute with boots and shoes and tunics and cardigans. I’ve almost worn the thighs through in those jeans, though. So I scooped up another pair, which somehow managed to be even more flattering.

I’m wearing them right now, thank you very much.

Anyway, I’ve already raved about two trivial things more than any normal person would. That’s okay, though. Being excited and grateful makes Cole a content person, and that’s something worth talking about.

Nov 13

Dear Mr. Trump

Mr Trump,

My 10-year-old cousin recently informed me that one of his classmates gleefully told him that you were going to “rape” my cousin and “cut off [his] penis” because he’s Asian. Presumably, this student is parroting someone — a parent, an older sibling, a teacher or another trusted adult in their lives — who supports you. Presumably, this person believes that you find these words and possibly those actions permissible if they don’t believe you outright encourage them.

Of course, there’s no way you could be knowledgeable about this specific incident, but it does paint a stark portrait of the currently-unraveling moral fabric of American society. While you claim to have no knowledge of any (increase in) such harassment during your recent 60 Minutes interview, you damn well should. In fact, I’d consider using your hallmark retort, “You’re fired!” in the direction of any an all staff on your social media team who hasn’t informed you of the current state of affairs.

Opening any social network will result in a barrage of posts from people — women, Muslims, Hispanics, African Americans, Native Americans, Asian Americans and members of the LGBTQ community to name just a few – who are on the receiving end of similar threats from those who believe your presidency will result in the removal of these people from their homes and communities and physical harm to their person.

I have heard stories of

  • Women being eyed up by strangers
  • Women being sexually assaulted
  • Women having their crotches grabbed
  • People being physically assaulted
  • Muslims having hijabs torn from their heads
  • Muslims having glass bottles thrown at them
  • Muslims being spat on
  • More people than ever feeling free to use the N word
  • Muslims having gasoline thrown on them
  • Teachers having to remove students of all ages for harassing and threatening other students
  • People being threatened with future rape, deportation and assault
  • Vandalism of religious sites where people of color attend

The possibility and promise of harm coming to people has forced Muslims to not wear hijabs and Democrats to remove bumper stickers lest someone use those artifacts to identify them as a target for whatever reason, even if that reason is completely bogus.

Anyone who looks remotely “brown” whether they’re Hispanic, Indian or Native American could be the next person assaulted or threatened as the hundreds upon hundreds of reports on sites like Why We’re Afraid depict. Even if those people are here legally or were born in the United States and have never known another home. Even if those people might actually be Trump supporters themselves; although, it’s not hard to see why so many of them aren’t.

So, President-Elect Trump, it’s not good enough for you to say you have no knowledge of these incidents. It’s not good enough for you to halfheartedly say people should leave Muslims and Hispanics alone. You must vocally let your followers know that you do not, have not and will not condone such actions. You must stand up for women, the LGBT community, Muslims, Jews people of color and anyone else who might find themselves at the ire of vociferous and dangerous Trump supporters.

And whether or not you condone these actions, your own actions have led people to believe that you do. Mr. Trump, there is a reason why people feel like it’s okay to act out like this now, and many of those people have used your name as an excuse for their poor behavior. You won the election, and it was like a switch was flipped. Bigots, racists, homophobes and other xenophobes suddenly felt the compulsion to threaten and assault other people.

What’s more, they felt they had permission to do so because you have won the presidential election.

It seems to me that you have a lot of power even now, months before you’ll be inaugurated, and if you truly want to bring this country together, you’ll take responsibility and use that power to take a stand against these actions.

But both you and I, Mr. Trump, know that you won’t.



Nov 07

Why I Hate Every Character on Felicity

Last month, I decided I wanted to watch something new. I tried a few shows that weren’t so recent, but most of them hadn’t aged well. Felicity was of show of which I’d heard, but with which I wasn’t familiar. It’s recent enough to remain watchable, and there are only four seasons. It would be easy enough to finish before the end of the month.

At first, I identified with studious and somewhat naive Felicity, who was romantic enough to spontaneously follow a boy across the country where he was attending college.

The first season was dramatic but interesting enough to continue. Before long, however, I felt myself feeling loathing toward every.single.character on this Let me tell you why.

felicity cast

I hate you all.

Felicity Porter

Like I said, I liked Felicity at first. She was a little serious, but I figured her character would grow and get over her obsession with Ben. At first, this happened. She started dating her RA, Noel.

However, Felicity turns out to be the most wishy-washy, passive person I’ve ever met. She keeps falling into situations because she’s just to befuddled to take control of her life. And when this happens? You guessed it! She takes no responsibility.

After four years in college, pretty much all of her character development is wiped clean. Ouch!

Ben Covington

Ben is the jock whom Felicity follows to New York despite the fact that they only spoke once during four years of high school in California.

Ben is without an anchor for much of the show; although, he eventually finds some meaning to his life. However, this doesn’t negate the issues that I have with Ben and the actor’s portrayal.

First things first. What’s with the god damn whispering voice? I didn’t notice it in the beginning, but it becomes more and more distinct as the series goes on. It makes me want to inflict violence.

Secondly, Ben has a serious anger problem. It’s touched on once (barely), but no one seems to care that Ben has gotten into fights with all his friends, his peers from school and others.

He constantly fucks Felicity around, which is something that other characters mention, but Felicity denies time and again.

Noel Crane

Noel is the RA whom Felicity dates for a short period of time – until he decides he might want to get back with his ex, and Felicity has sex with another guy from school. Don’t worry, though. Eventually, Noel sleeps with Felicity.. while she’s dating Ben.

Noel does have a lot of good traits. He’s smart and caring. He also suffers from the affliction Know As Nice Guy syndrome. He whines about finishing last when Felicity chooses Ben. But Noel is no saint, and he can never quite seem to get his shit together. Which is weird considering how together he is when we first met him.

Julie Emrick

Julie is Felicity’s first friend after arriving at college, and it’s a match made in heaven.. until Julie develops feelings for Ben. And though Julie tells Felicity nothing will happen of it, they sneak around behind Felicity’s back until she finds out. They date for a while, but it doesn’t work out for god-knows-what-reason.

To be fair, I don’t hate Julie. I feel bad for the little adopted girl who meets her birth mom and can’t have the relationship that she desires with the woman. It’s sad, but she’s also naive. Julie’s stint is short-lived. I imagine there must have been a money issue or scheduling conflict because they kind of just write her out based on that naivety.

Sean Blumberg

If there is a character on this show that I hate the most, it’s Sean. I hate Sean so much that I just seeing his face angers me, and I previously liked the actor on other shows. Sean is a few years older than the college kids in Felicity, and I can’t recall if he want to school himself. He owns/rents an apartment that he sublets to Ben throughout the four years. Julie, Noel and other characters also crash with Sean for a while.

Sean is aware that hanging out with these youngers kids is odd, but that’s all the self-awareness that this bloke can muster. He fancies himself an inventor, especially of foodstuffs, but no one has the heart to tell him that he shouldn’t quit his day job (which he doesn’t have, anyway, and the lack of money comes up more than once). Sean flits between get-rich-quick-schemes without realizing that he’s wasting time and money (both his and others’).

Eventually, Sean winds up focusing on a documentary of Felicity and co, and there’s initially some interest. However, he once again puts all his eggs in one basket and winds up with nothing. Surprise.

I think we’re supposed to feel bad for him when we meet his dad who happens to be just as useless. I get it. He can’t help it. Fuck off. Yes he can. Be a god damned adult you piece of shit.

Meghan Rotundi

Meghan is, initially, Felicity’s roommate. She’s a Wiccan, goth and also a bitch. She gives no fucks and seems to be the most genuine of the characters. We don’t like Meghan so much as a person but as a character? She’s golden.Eventually, she and Sean hook up and

Eventually, she and Sean hook up and wnid up dating, and she moves in with him and his roommates. Megan slowly-but-surely loses her edge and becomes one of Felicity’s most supportive friends. This plotline could have been done worse, but it also could have been done better. I suspect Meghan was never intended to be more than a foil, and the writers had trouble fully fleshing her out.

Elena Tyler

Elena is a strange character, and I never much liked her. Initially, she lived on Felicity’s dorm floor. They became friends, and eventually wind up becoming roommates. Elena is the stereotypical angry black girl, and maybe it’s that box that I just don’t dig.

Elena also consistently makes piss-poor decisions regarding men, first sleeping with a professor, dating someone who has made it clear he doesn’t want sex before marriage, walking out on her own wedding, leading on an overweight-but-nice guy and finally leaving him for her ex.

Javier Quintata

Javier is Felicity-then-Ben’s boss at a coffee shop. He befriends the group, and he mostly exist for comic relief. He’s a stereotypical gay man with both the lisp to prove it and a Spanish accent. While often a sweetheart to Felicity, Javier asks for favors that no one should ever ask (will she marry him for a green card, will she be his surrogate, etc) but gets away with it because he’s from another culture – and funny.

Much of Javier’s plotline has to do with his relationship with his support boyfriend-turned-husband, but then they suddenly split. There’s no reason for this except to allow Javier to spend more time with the college kids whom he employs.


Ruby doesn’t even get a last name, guys! She doesn’t have a lot of other things either: a voice that doesn’t grate when she speaks, a face worth looking at or chemistry with Noel, with whom she’s involved. Intelligence also seems to be lacking on that list. What a winning combination!

Edward Porter

Felicity’s dad is a an overbearing monster who becomes a fucking mess. Get the fuck out.


While Trevor is played by the adorable Christopher Gorham, he’s an idiot who furthers the plot for Ben slightly.

Barbara Porter

Felicity’s mom is the reason her dad becomes a fucking mess. She’s just as overbearing and pretentious as fuck. Die in a fire, will you?

Andrew Covington

You know when an actor you like plays an asshole? That’s John Ritter as Ben’s alcoholic and abusive father. We see a few episodes featuring Andrew in the later seasons. Trust me when I say you’ll wish he dies. (He doesn’t)

Richard Coad

The final wanker on this list (although far from the last character on this show who makes me seethe) is Richard. He’s a fellow student on Felicity’s dorm floor in the first year, and he tries to blackmail Noel into giving him perks lest he expose Noel and Felicity’s relationship.

Eventually, Richard falls in with Sean while he’s making the documentary, and the pair invade other peoples’ personal space in a way that’s mostly certainly illegal by 2016 standards. Toward the end of the show, Richard proves he’s an ignorant, hurtful racist but, for some unknown reason, Elena forgives him.

Richard was always intended to be annoying and he is – in spades!

I think it’s fair to say that I also hate the writers of Felicity – and the stylists. I loved Felicity’s curly hair but, slowly and then all-at-once they decide she suddenly needs to straighten her hair and wear a ton of makeup. It may represent some of the cultural changes happening at that time, but it’s disappointing.

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