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Um, What?

If you’ve been on the internet lately, you’ve probably seen people posting their FormSpring links. If not, here’s all you need to know: Formspring is free to sign up and users can allow other registered users or even anonymous folks to ask them questions. Their can reply to them and both questions and answers will show up on the user’s page. It’s like a modern version of the “Ask me Anything” button. And it’s fucking annoying because my Twitter updates are filled with formspring links and I don’t give a shit but that is another rant.

My rant is about a user whose FormSpring I stumbled across. This young woman apparently does “recreational” cocaine when she drinks. She is also amazed that admitting so, in a public place, has motivated people to ask about it because, like, everyone she knows does it when they go out to drink and, like, it helps with her fatigue because of her thyroid problems. Not her exact words but it’s what I got from it. Apparently, every bar in her neighbourhood has a dealer and she’s never seen someone decline the offer to do a line. So it’s all the rage where she lives.

Ooookay. Let’s stop there.

I have never met anyone who openly admitted to having done coke ever in their life. I probably know someone who has but it’s not something that just pops up in conversation. I don’t know who I would ask if I wanted to do cocaine and I have never been offered a line. And I have never lived anyplace where cocaine was available in every bar, at least to my knowledge. If I did, I’d move the fuck out of Dodge for fear of someone “busting a cap in my ass” or something equally scary.

Granted, my hometown was very much blue collar. Maybe everyone just stuck to less expensive drugs like weed. Granted, my hometown isn’t young and hip and weight obsessed so maybe this woman knows a lot of folks with money and calories to burn. Granted, I don’t go out all the time so maybe I am just not in the right place to experience this phenomenon.

But, really? Come on. If you think it’s no big thing to talk about doing a line of cocaine, then maybe you are too involved and ought to take a step back. If you really think it’s strange that people would inquire, maybe you need a mental health check. Or to get the fuck off the crack. Whatever.

Save The Drama For Your Mama

Pardon the cliche. A manager from my first job used to use it and while it annoyed us and the way he said it only made us suspect he was gay but I digress. There’s some drama going on with one of my family members and her husband which has escalated  from petty gossip to a potentially dangerous train wreck of a problem and while the original issue isn’t really anyone’s fault, the current state of affairs is so much more dramatic than it need be.

Long story short, the husband of a family member has a history of mental illness (paranoid schizophrenia, as far as I know) which, in the past, let him to being institutionalized. This hasn’t been an issue as long as she’s known him except that he does seem to have an awful lot of safety deposit boxes and safes. While everyone thought he was strange, maybe eccentric, no one thought anything more of it. Why would they? Why would his wife even think she needed to look into his mental history before marrying?

The past few months, he has really taken a turn for the worse, however. At first it was annoying and weird more than alarming. He would mention things like his family was plotting against him or someone was watching him. He was generally showing a lot of distrust in people. Now, he has spent close to $1,000 having his wife and family investigated – $1,000 he does not have as his health has recently taken a turn for the worse and medical bills are forcing him to file bankruptcy. He goes back and forth, multiple times a day, about whether or not he wants to stay married to his wife. One minute he hates her, the next he wants to buy a house in California. He follows his wife when she visits friends and family and photographs the places she goes. He has acquired somewhere in the vicinity of 8 guns, with ammunition, and even went to far as to try to convince his wife that she needs to put her fingerprints on one of those guns.

It’s unclear whether he was medicated and it stopped working. Or perhaps he stopped taking his medication. There’s also the possibility that he has been fine without his medication for some time and it’s just now become an issue. It could easily have been trigger with his health going downhill.  Either way, while he is acting in a disturbing manner – even scary, I don’t know that it’s his fault. It’s not her fault but she has certainly be reacting in a strange way. At first, she just bitched, making a big fuss but doing nothing. In fact, she bitched for months until someone forced her to call his doctor and the police – both of whom told her they could do nothing at the time.

With the most recent turn of events (the gun/fingerprints comment), she called the police once more and they removed all the firearms from her house so she  could pick them up at the police station and take them someplace her husband cannot access them. She had no idea how many guns were in her house  and considering as she has been spending much time at my mother’s, this worries the hell out of me.

My bone here, is that it never had to go this far. It’s not her fault, of course, but instead of bitching for months she could have done something. It looks like the only feasible option would be to contact his family and have him committed but that certainly seems like the best option for everyone involved. In fact, it could even potentially result in him getting “better” or medicated and their marriage being saved. But she didn’t do that. Instead, she bitched and and slept with some guy.

I don’t know. I wouldn’t be happy if the same thing happened with Ryan but my concern would be dealing with it, for both of our sakes, rather than bitching or cheating. The fact is, no one should have to deal with that but mental illness is a reality we cannot escape; we can only hope to deal with it and by avoiding the heart of the issue, she has caused more drama and damage than ever had to arise from this all. My family doesn’t need that and my sister certainly doesn’t need to be involved in that.

My life doesn’t have a ton of drama and there’s a reason. I don’t let it. Period. It’s really as easy as that. Drop the situations and people who bring drama. Don’t do stupid things. Think before you at or speak. Don’t talk behind other people’s backs. Don’t piss people off just because.  Don’t do anything without good reason. Don’t do drugs. Don’t be a crack whore. Don’t mess with the authorities. Deal with issues that arise, instead of ignoring them. To sum it up: certain people and things will lead to drama; avoid them. If you complain about the drama all the time but allow it into your life, you’re an idiot.