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Save The Drama For Your Mama

Pardon the cliche. A manager from my first job used to use it and while it annoyed us and the way he said it only made us suspect he was gay but I digress. There’s some drama going on with one of my family members and her husband which has escalated  from petty gossip to a potentially dangerous train wreck of a problem and while the original issue isn’t really anyone’s fault, the current state of affairs is so much more dramatic than it need be.

Long story short, the husband of a family member has a history of mental illness (paranoid schizophrenia, as far as I know) which, in the past, let him to being institutionalized. This hasn’t been an issue as long as she’s known him except that he does seem to have an awful lot of safety deposit boxes and safes. While everyone thought he was strange, maybe eccentric, no one thought anything more of it. Why would they? Why would his wife even think she needed to look into his mental history before marrying?

The past few months, he has really taken a turn for the worse, however. At first it was annoying and weird more than alarming. He would mention things like his family was plotting against him or someone was watching him. He was generally showing a lot of distrust in people. Now, he has spent close to $1,000 having his wife and family investigated – $1,000 he does not have as his health has recently taken a turn for the worse and medical bills are forcing him to file bankruptcy. He goes back and forth, multiple times a day, about whether or not he wants to stay married to his wife. One minute he hates her, the next he wants to buy a house in California. He follows his wife when she visits friends and family and photographs the places she goes. He has acquired somewhere in the vicinity of 8 guns, with ammunition, and even went to far as to try to convince his wife that she needs to put her fingerprints on one of those guns.

It’s unclear whether he was medicated and it stopped working. Or perhaps he stopped taking his medication. There’s also the possibility that he has been fine without his medication for some time and it’s just now become an issue. It could easily have been trigger with his health going downhill.  Either way, while he is acting in a disturbing manner – even scary, I don’t know that it’s his fault. It’s not her fault but she has certainly be reacting in a strange way. At first, she just bitched, making a big fuss but doing nothing. In fact, she bitched for months until someone forced her to call his doctor and the police – both of whom told her they could do nothing at the time.

With the most recent turn of events (the gun/fingerprints comment), she called the police once more and they removed all the firearms from her house so she  could pick them up at the police station and take them someplace her husband cannot access them. She had no idea how many guns were in her house  and considering as she has been spending much time at my mother’s, this worries the hell out of me.

My bone here, is that it never had to go this far. It’s not her fault, of course, but instead of bitching for months she could have done something. It looks like the only feasible option would be to contact his family and have him committed but that certainly seems like the best option for everyone involved. In fact, it could even potentially result in him getting “better” or medicated and their marriage being saved. But she didn’t do that. Instead, she bitched and and slept with some guy.

I don’t know. I wouldn’t be happy if the same thing happened with Ryan but my concern would be dealing with it, for both of our sakes, rather than bitching or cheating. The fact is, no one should have to deal with that but mental illness is a reality we cannot escape; we can only hope to deal with it and by avoiding the heart of the issue, she has caused more drama and damage than ever had to arise from this all. My family doesn’t need that and my sister certainly doesn’t need to be involved in that.

My life doesn’t have a ton of drama and there’s a reason. I don’t let it. Period. It’s really as easy as that. Drop the situations and people who bring drama. Don’t do stupid things. Think before you at or speak. Don’t talk behind other people’s backs. Don’t piss people off just because.  Don’t do anything without good reason. Don’t do drugs. Don’t be a crack whore. Don’t mess with the authorities. Deal with issues that arise, instead of ignoring them. To sum it up: certain people and things will lead to drama; avoid them. If you complain about the drama all the time but allow it into your life, you’re an idiot.

Change of plans.

Vote on the new poll!

Today was another story, which doesn’t really matter to me because I wouldn’t have gone either. However, I’m not sure why it was a snow day because there is about 5 more inches of snow, but the roads are perfectly fine. They’re even better hype here, now, than when we have 2 or 3 inches. So my day off isn’t so special.

I actually didn’t go to the courthouse with mom and Tim because Tim told me not to. I was really tired and couldn’t drag myself out of bed. Then I decided I have nothing to wear that isn’t black, which is true. It sounds like I didn’t miss much. Liz, my aunt, and Grandpa went too and from what Mom says Liz got the car stuck in the driveway because Grandpa told her that she needed to turn around and he’s driven “for over forty years” so he should know. Then when everyone was in the mall parking lot Liz said “if he hadn’t said anything” and Grandpa said her husband deserve to beat her. So she was crying and said “Fuck you” really loudly while Mom and Tim were heading to the car and trying not to be associated. Later Grandpa was all “I still love you Lizzie.” I know he’s aging but these aren’t just personality traits. Sometimes the thing that he says are downright scary.

Mrs. Farmer said my interview went well, and that I really won people over because of my decision to go to Arizona blindly. They know that financial circumstances are a problem and we can’t really overcome them at this time, so I hope that will be a factor in what scholarships I may receive and how much. On the topic of money, Ben made me feel better the other night because he said one day I will own a house and have five cars and not have to worry about it. II <3 Ben
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I had some problems with my Lita Ford fanlisting, but now they’re fixed. We really need some people to apply to be reviewed at Adrenaline. So pretty, pretty please? -gives puppy dog eyes*

Here’s the Friday Five
What was…

1. …your first grade teacher’s name?
I think it was Mrs. Louis, but I don’t remember her at all. I don’t even remember my kindergarten teacher’s name.

2. …your favorite Saturday morning cartoon?
Garfield! dun dun dun dun (Garfield theme song!)

3. …the name of your very first best friend? Crystal

4. …your favorite breakfast cereal?
We never had anything good. Once we had to eat oatmeal for two months straight because my mom’s ex is an asshole. Needless to say, I rarely touch oatmeal anymore. I really like honeycomb now, though. Oh! Wait! I remember that I used to have cream of wheat at grandma’s house and I loved it. She always made it so perfectly and I could never master that art. Go Grandma!

5. …your favorite thing to do after school?
I used to have this Best Friends Forever club thingy. So I did that a lot. I’d call meetings on Saturdays and the like. Hum. I’d come home and play Barbies a lot. I also played house and took walks. We lived in the country so I could disappear for hours down by the creek. I didn’t watch a lot of TV, I know that. I would play with the cats and dogs and sometimes I would go out into “the shed” which is where Dan kept all his “junk” and take some inside. Dan was a “junk man;” he collected old appliances and tore them apart to sell the metal to places as scrap or to sell as parts. He kept this in the shed and out behind the shed. So the stuff I was bringing in was dirty and not very healthy.

Stupid bitch

i really seem to have a way of pissing people off. erg.
anyway, i never said my site was elite, just that hers wasn’t.
and i was just ‘stating the facts’ -rme*
it was CHEAP, and CRAPPY
your 2.5 years of experience haven’t taught you a god damned thing
you are still on angelwhore, and there’s no content to your site.
your images are horrible edits, and you claim to have more hits,
but there’s not a single counter on the entire site.
you’re full of shit, old and bitter.
so perhaps as YOU get older, you’ll learn to design.

Thief

m’far from happy
i recieved an email, someone d/l’ed all the layouts
gave a fake url
-growls*
fucking thief!
dont worry, i have your IP bitch!

I miss my internet

well let’s see if i can’t blog.. doubtful however, seeing as m’server is down again
i was just thinking how the internet used t’be different.. when you went into a chat room you talked t’everyone everybody was just having a good time.. talking and laughing and telling jokes and being silly.. making fun of others.. getting thrown into pools -lol* and then everyone became so cliquey.. and so damned pretentious.. you started feeling self conscious.. and don’t forget all the drama all the fucking drama.. there was no fun anymore.. it took you over.. it’s sad really.. i chat sparsley.. no more 7 hours in a room -smh* cant believe it was ever like that..
now i focus more on m’site which i cant update anyway -points up* and it’s sad because even in the webmaster world there are cliques.. you must be in cliques t’get linked.. which is sad.. however in general m’glad that i don’t have all one type of people who visit m’site.. i know it’s a very vast and spread out group of viewers. just take a look at the guestbook..
anyway there was a point t’this rant and maybe it did get t’you. if not better luck next time.

Browser Compatibility?

-ahem*
usually id let this go, but today m’not in a good mood and m’sick of her shit..
i was informed by X that the “i only use ie clique” is selfish
something t’do with me making it only suitable for whichever browser i can code for easiest..
1) coding isnt easy.. if i wanted easy id use a fucking page builder
2) i only use ie.. if it looks good t’me.. then m’happy..
3) ive seen similar cliques… all dead now i believe.. has she said anything about them? No! Why? I think it’s her trying to change me again, to make me into some sophisticated higher being like she thinks she is. She’s not. Get over yourself.
4) netscape is limited.. there is so much you CANNOT do.. no matter how hard you try.. i know.. after trying and trying t’make all m’site netscape compatible i said “fuck it” so few people use netscape it shouldnt matter anyway
5) my sites looks fine with every other browse BUT netscape.. so screw your “universal access” cause i think everyone else is just happy!
thank you very much!

Cliques

this livejournal clique shit just bugs the fuck outta me -l*