"Marital Aids" is an old term used to refer to sex toys, generally. Using this terminology, these tools are viewed as something to help the emotional and intimate state of marriage and, thus, sex toys become viewed as less taboo than when addressed as their original moniker. Still, it generally means the same thing.
So how do sex toys aid in your relationship? Sex toys can help by taking the pressure off one or both partners to please the other. Sex toys can prolong a sexual 'session' by giving a partner a break or continuing the intimacy after one partner is spent. Sex toys help achieve results that were otherwise unattainable, such as orgasm. Sex toys can strengthen intimacy by teaching partners more about the likes, dislikes, needs, desires and fantasies of eachother and themselves and build trust in the process. Sex toys can help break a boring routine and encourage partners to explore more exciting territories. Taking a bold move like introducing sex toys into the bedroom can help a couple open up about less intimidating topics as well. Of course, sex toys can always be used solo and often are but I'll get to that later..
The most important thing about sex toys is they cannot aid any relationship without the most important aid already existing: communication. Being able to express thoughts and feelings to one's partner in a way the partner understands is imperative in all aspects of a healthy relationship, including sexual. Unfortunately, many people fear telling their significant other their true desires because of the anticipated reaction. People do not want to feel weird, wrong or disgusting, especially in the eyes of the one they love most.
The bad news is, nothing good ever comes without risk and by not bringing up these topics, you may be missing out on the experience of the life time. And, if your desire is strong, you may find yourself becoming increasingly unhappy and unsatisfied by your partner and relationship.
The good news is, your partner probably won't think that you're a freak. He or she may be up for the suggestion or may think it's weird and not want to try it, which won't be very satisfying but really won't hurt anymore more than your pride. In the worst case scenario where your partner is completely understanding and looks down upon you for your fantasies, it may be time to take a deeper look into the non-sexual aspects of your relationship and perhaps, leave.
So if you broach the topic of sex toys with your partner, you may very well be on the beginning of a fulfilling journey, for both of you!
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