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Her Realm, Personal website and blog of Cole
Jul 03

Death Becomes Her

I’ve been thinking a lot about death lately and not in a way that’s morbid  — at least, not in the way that would consider morbid. I recently finished reading Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers, which I may or may not get around to reviewing on Reviews by Cole, but it’s certainly gotten me thinking.

Here’s what I’m thinking; the two most viable options for human remains are among the worst. In fact, many people don’t realize that any other options exist and, in some locations, they’re so difficult that you might as not well consider them options at all. And that’s pretty awful.

I don’t want an expensive casket to entomb my decomposing body while I take up precious space that’s better left for the dead nor do I want to be incinerated in a process that’s not environmentally-friendly or contributory to science.

So what do I want? First, for my organs to be donated. There’s not a single reason not to do that. There are about ten options from there, however, and the following is my personal ranking of what I’d like done with my body from most to least desired.

  • Scientific research – A local university is the most viable option for corpse donation, but it’s certainly time-sensitive. I like this option and take no issue with any type of research. If it’s helpful, I am down. I would especially like to be used for studies done in labs dedicated to ballistics and car accident research, however, because it’s so necessary and exactly the type of thing that others shun. If the service allowed me to leave a note to those who might be working on my body, I think a pun or a bad joke would fit the bill. Ideally, any remains would be composted. Realistically, they’ll be cremated, and I would be just fine if my cremains wound up in an unmarked grave with other cremains.
  • Composting – composting isn’t a thing yet, but it could be by the time I die. Composting is posed to be economical, practical and ecological; although, it doesn’t have a scientific purpose. One proposed method relies on freezing the body, using vibration to break it up, removing liquid and turning the rest into compost. Cool!
  • Natural burial – a natural, above-ground burial doesn’t advance the scientific community, but it does seem like a pleasant way to go. Skip the embalming and fancy packaging and let nature do its part in due time. Caskets aren’t actually a requirement in the state of Wisconsin, so it may be a viable option if I know someone who has the land!
  • Body Farm – You might think that someone who is writing a blog post about her preferred methods of corporeal dispensement who seems to have an affinity for science would like her body being delivered to a body farm and, you know, it’s far from the worst option to consider. It serves a purpose: teaching people more about the decomposition process of human bodies. But it’s just not very appetizing. It’s not practical for me personally, either, because there are no body farms near me.
  • Burial at sea – I imagine this to be a costly final destination that is incongruent with who I am as a person. But sleeping with the fishes is more eco-friendly than some of the other options. At least it’s EPA-regulated.
  • Necrophilia – Look, it’s weird. As a living person, I am not at all attracted to the bodies of people who have already passed, but it’s more productive than some of the other options, right?
  • Cremation – Cremation is the lesser of two evils when it comes to the big two. It’s more affordable and requires less space, but I’m not too keen on what it does to the environment. If someone wanted to keep my cremains close by, however, I would be okay with that. And there are so many cool things you can do with cremains. Being inturned with seeds is one option; although, it’s really of no benefit to the tree.
  • Mummification –  This option isn’t my favorite. It requires my body to take up space while it decomposes more slowly than a natural burial because of the embalming process. But in several thousand years, the process will complete.
  • Cryonically frozen – Listen, I like science fiction as much as the next person, but cryonics just isn’t scientifically viable. It’s a demanding use of resources that neither I nor the world should spend. I also have no desire to beat death even were it possible.
  • Casket Burial – Literally the worst possible thing that could happen to my body. It’s not economical, and it doesn’t serve any purpose. I love spending time in cemeteries as long as my body is animated, but they won’t do me a damned thing of good when I’m dead.

So this might be a weird post for some of you — or not. You know that I’m not exactly traditional in many ways!


Nov 13

Dear Mr. Trump

Mr Trump,

My 10-year-old cousin recently informed me that one of his classmates gleefully told him that you were going to “rape” my cousin and “cut off [his] penis” because he’s Asian. Presumably, this student is parroting someone — a parent, an older sibling, a teacher or another trusted adult in their lives — who supports you. Presumably, this person believes that you find these words and possibly those actions permissible if they don’t believe you outright encourage them.

Of course, there’s no way you could be knowledgeable about this specific incident, but it does paint a stark portrait of the currently-unraveling moral fabric of American society. While you claim to have no knowledge of any (increase in) such harassment during your recent 60 Minutes interview, you damn well should. In fact, I’d consider using your hallmark retort, “You’re fired!” in the direction of any an all staff on your social media team who hasn’t informed you of the current state of affairs.

Opening any social network will result in a barrage of posts from people — women, Muslims, Hispanics, African Americans, Native Americans, Asian Americans and members of the LGBTQ community to name just a few – who are on the receiving end of similar threats from those who believe your presidency will result in the removal of these people from their homes and communities and physical harm to their person.

I have heard stories of

  • Women being eyed up by strangers
  • Women being sexually assaulted
  • Women having their crotches grabbed
  • People being physically assaulted
  • Muslims having hijabs torn from their heads
  • Muslims having glass bottles thrown at them
  • Muslims being spat on
  • More people than ever feeling free to use the N word
  • Muslims having gasoline thrown on them
  • Teachers having to remove students of all ages for harassing and threatening other students
  • People being threatened with future rape, deportation and assault
  • Vandalism of religious sites where people of color attend

The possibility and promise of harm coming to people has forced Muslims to not wear hijabs and Democrats to remove bumper stickers lest someone use those artifacts to identify them as a target for whatever reason, even if that reason is completely bogus.

Anyone who looks remotely “brown” whether they’re Hispanic, Indian or Native American could be the next person assaulted or threatened as the hundreds upon hundreds of reports on sites like Why We’re Afraid depict. Even if those people are here legally or were born in the United States and have never known another home. Even if those people might actually be Trump supporters themselves; although, it’s not hard to see why so many of them aren’t.

So, President-Elect Trump, it’s not good enough for you to say you have no knowledge of these incidents. It’s not good enough for you to halfheartedly say people should leave Muslims and Hispanics alone. You must vocally let your followers know that you do not, have not and will not condone such actions. You must stand up for women, the LGBT community, Muslims, Jews people of color and anyone else who might find themselves at the ire of vociferous and dangerous Trump supporters.

And whether or not you condone these actions, your own actions have led people to believe that you do. Mr. Trump, there is a reason why people feel like it’s okay to act out like this now, and many of those people have used your name as an excuse for their poor behavior. You won the election, and it was like a switch was flipped. Bigots, racists, homophobes and other xenophobes suddenly felt the compulsion to threaten and assault other people.

What’s more, they felt they had permission to do so because you have won the presidential election.

It seems to me that you have a lot of power even now, months before you’ll be inaugurated, and if you truly want to bring this country together, you’ll take responsibility and use that power to take a stand against these actions.

But both you and I, Mr. Trump, know that you won’t.

 

 


Jan 20

Every Other Year

2015 will be awesome if for no other reason than odd years seem to be awesome.

2011 was the year I traveled to cons and concerts and reconnected with many friends.

2013 had all this potential and I was more confident than I had been in quite some time.

2015 has already had many good times with friends, drinks, cat cuddles and tons of dancing around my living room to awesome music.

Here’s looking to the rest of the year!


Nov 05

Handling the Work Load and the School Fill

Every senior high school has a top tier group of students. These will be the schools “best and brightest.” These pupils and premier athletics fill all the pupil leadership positions that were schools and curricular settings that were further overlap their many hobbies. Not merely are they expected to get ” As ” in most of the programs, but teachers and parents view perfect results being a conclusion. Continue reading


Dec 24

Merry Christmas

I have a busy two days ahead of me. I had a busy weekend. I don’t have time to tell you all how much I love you.

So here’s a present.

Goliath Under the Tree!

Merry Christmas.


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